Weight Gain Through the Mirror
Originally published 2.4.2014; reformatted and corrected 5.20.2015; reformatted 9.19.2015So I went back to my favorite BMI simulator and put in the data for how I ate before I changed my eating.
An aside: The NIH calorie simulator remains my favorite,
The following table shows the numbers I got in my experiment. The first two columns are the inputs, The third column is the output. I input my age and weight and looked at the number of calories their model predicts that a woman of my height at that age would be eating to sustain that weight. Other constant assumptions were that I was sedentary except for 30 minutes of moderate exercise a few days a week. Those conditions reflect my lifestyle prior to changing my diet and exercise habits. A further note about the NIH simulator. It does not account for nay effects of yo-yo dieting. I didn't diet through this time. I decided in my early 20s that deprivation was not how I wanted to live my life, and thus I would not diet. I don't have a history of trying every diet under the sun, therefore.
The one exception to this rule is my short term experiment with low carb dieting in my early 30's, specifically I tried the Protein Power diet designed by the husband and wife team, the Doctors Eades. My husband and I did it together after seeing how much weight his parents were losing following it. But it was a short lived experiment. We both lost about 10 pounds, decided the diet was boring and went back to eating 2000 and 2500 calories a day as we had been. And the weight came right back.
For a 40 year old sedentary (desk job) 4'11" woman who did 30 minutes of exercise a few days a week and who ate 2000 calories (which is the total recommended for the "average" woman to eat and what I tried to do) would weigh. And the number was 147**, which is what I weighed when I turned 40, my non-pregnant chubbiest.

**147 is the weight my old scale measured. When I upgraded to a digital scale, I realized that the analog scale had been off by 3-4 pounds. My highest weight was likely closer to 150— which would in fact mean that my BMI crossed the magic 30.
The weights in the table are what I weighed at each of those ages. I was fairly sedentary, having given up sport to get a part time job to make money for college. And I easily consumed this many calories, meals were meat and starch heavy. Those numbers are from the model, but they reflect exactly what I weighed. And the calorie totals are close to what I tried to eat daily because I thought 2000 was the number of calories for a woman.
I've never been obese though (These words were written before I realized that my scale was inaccurate). Why is that? Part of it is how I changed my diet over the years. While still an undergraduate, I gave up full sugar soda as a way to "save" calories, though I didn't actually consume less— I just looked for a way to stay within the "magic" 2000. I preferred to eat my calories rather than drink them, with the exception of adult beverages (beer or wine), which I enjoy drinking with dinner.
Another aside: I feel so stupid even writing those words, but the truth is that I never questioned the notion that 2000 calories is what the average woman should eat. Or rather, I never questioned as to whether or not I was actually an averaged sized woman or if I should be eating as much as one. At 59 inches, I AM NOT average size. Added 9.19.2015: Actually, I am 60 inches tall. There was some confusion based on imprecise height measurements, but at the specialist using their very accurate device, I am a full 60 inches tall. That extra inch changes the table number a bit, but not enough to warrant the time to remake the table. The points remain the same. I am smaller than the average woman and therefore, like it or not (and let me tell you I don't like it) all other things (amount of exercise, health) being equal, I MUST eat less to maintain a normal weight/BMI than the typical American adult female.
So through the years, I made changes with which I could live. I stopped having cookies, candy or ice cream in my house, except on special occasions. I took up jogging, but that only lasted through my undergraduate years because I developed knee and foot issues. I became vegetarian, which both saved me the cost and calories of meat (note: I am no longer vegetarian). My jobs since graduation have been sedentary. I stopped having desserts routinely when eating out. I stopped eating the bread that comes to the table when eating out (that was actually the only part of low carbing that stuck). I was aware of calories on a basic level, though I never measured or counted with any conviction. Eating about 2000 calories, particularly after giving up soda and regular consumption of sweets was not difficult. I ate well, and even drank wine with dinner within that number. And slowly, over time I put on weight, despite not overeating according to conventional wisdom.
I never sat down until just before I turned 40 to actually try and calculate whether or not 2000 calories was truly the correct number I should be ingesting, given my sedentary lifestyle. I've described this process previously. Given my height, to maintain a normal weight (as defined by BMI) I needed to eat less than 2000 calories (kcal). Another complicating factor is that as you age, the number of calories you need decreases. So by not changing a single thing, my weight continued to increase, just as the model suggests that it would.
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